Tolerance or choice

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Ladies and gentlemen, it is with deep compassion and sorrow that I make the following announcement. To all, male and female adult readers, if you have ever used a public restroom designed for more than one occupant at a time, you have likely already shared this restroom with a transgender person. Yes, really. But should it be an accepted daily occurrence? We, as human beings, share so many traits in common. What we put in our bodies, and the wasteful part of what must come back out of our bodies. We cannot control the whens and the whats. At best, all we can do is execute remarkable "holding in" powers until we can find a restroom. This applies to all humans, regardless of age or gender. It is what it is, so to speak. Some places offer public restrooms, thankfully. Some offer one room only, as I guess meant for first come, first serve basis. Some offer the two separate options of Ladies and Gentlemen, clearly marked on the door. (I personally prefer the ones with words and not pictures, as in that moment I must figure out which is which, the severity of the need sometimes clouds my intelligence). And more recent, the family-style restroom, which is a blessing to dads with daughters and moms with sons. I once took my 2-year-old son into the ladies room with me and an older lady practically cursed me out for doing so. She said I was inconsiderate of the women in there, bringing in a male child. I truly wasn't trying to be inconsiderate. I was trying to avoid the possibility of having my son come to harm by leaving a two year old unattended outside of a public restroom simply because I had to "go." And now we come to the gender issue that seems to be the topic of interest lately. My opening statement can be explained quite simply. A transgender person is simply one gender living as the opposite gender, correct? Unless you are in the same stall and peeping private parts, depending on the expertise of imitation, you simply have no feasible way of knowing if that soft spoken lady you're standing beside as you wash your hands afterwards is truly a female. We, as a general rule, don't go into the restroom to socializel; we go in there for our level of need. The only time I would think gender identification would be more obvious is if a female attempted to use a male standing urinal in the men's room. I dare say, to successfully do that would take talent. We take it on good faith that when we enter the ladies or mens restroom. We are in there with the same gender as ourselves. As a nation, we have frequently been using the term, "I am offended." And because of this term, major changes have taken place to ensure we do not offend. The Pledge of Allegiance to our own country is no longer a morning ritual for our children in school. Prayers for thankfulness before our school serves our children food are no longer practiced. Flags came down. The Nativity cannot be displayed in some places during the matching holiday. I wont even begin on the issues of politically correct holiday greetings. Even the way we discipline our children in public. Our way of life steadily changing so as not to offend. Tolerance for all so we may none be offended? We cannot please all of the people all of the time, but I often wonder if we are pleasing any people any of the time? Or just confusing them. I am a female. I was born a female. I am happy being a female. I am a wife, a mother and a grandmother. And i have a daughter and granddaughter. Yes, they are females also. I also have a husband and a son and a grandson who are happily males. I personally prefer gender separation of restrooms. If another female/male in this world wishes to identify themselves as the opposite gender, thrn what she or he was born as, by all means, go for it. But in doing so, please be aware that you will still need to use a public restroom eventually. I do not wish to share a restroom with a male, no matter how pretty you might be . But I am aware I probably have already done so without realizing it. If I must use the family side, at least I would be aware that a male might be present and I still maintain the right of choice. It is not fear. It's merely personal choice. And it renders a lessened chance of having to explain to my granddaughter why the lady standing across from us washing her hands has a five o' clock shadow. Or why a man gets to use a restroom clearly marked Ladies, should his talent of imitation be lacking or his gender simply be obvious. The same applies to the males in my family. If my guys are in the mens room., no females need to be in there. It's personal choice. To each his or her own, but please don't take my personal preference out of my control while I must be tolerant of yours. And for the sake of clarification, there is a big difference between a transgender person and a sexual predator. I believe some, in their arguments, are confusing the two. A lady recently accused me of intolerance toward people by my simple statement of openly saying I did not wish to use the restroom with a male present. She went on a tangent of accusations , that I believed I would be in some sort of danger in the should a male be in a female restroom. To that lady and anyone else who misunderstood me....I said I preferred gender separation of restrooms. I did not, nor will I, accuse any male or female or transgender person of being some sort of a predator. However, I do believe that open allowance of a open gendered rule for a restroom might be giving predators an advantage. A predator will make their own advantages, anywhere or anytime. The only difference that might help is trying to explain and be accountable for being where you were not suppose to be as in a clearly defined space separated as male and female restrooms. Some of us sit. Some of us stand. May we all "do our business" and have the right to choose which closed door we choose to do it behind. And may we all take into the consideration of the parts we were created with when we choose and open that door. That's all im saying. Be someone's blessing and have a blessed day.